power of framing words

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

Who thought of that ridiculous saying?  Words can absolutely hurt.  Sometimes, words hurt the most.  I’m going to share my experience I recently had on learning the lesson of the power of framing words.  Let me start off by saying, I know that the people I will write about, 100% care about me and meant well with their comments.  I recognize that and am not doubting it whatsoever.  I’ve had time to reflect on various situations and have been able to shift my thinking.  This post will be honest and raw, but typing my thoughts always serves a therapeutic purpose, and maybe I can shed light on the power of framing words to others.

Also, let me provide a bit of context before I begin.  I’ve been at the same school for eight years, and I absolutely LOVE it.  I taught first grade my first year in a different district, then third grade for four years and fourth grade for four years.  I was an early childhood major in college (and also got my elementary certification).  While the little ones have always been my passion, I grew to love my third and fourth graders.  I was continually amazed by their sophisticated thinking, the growth they made, and the level of rigor they were completing.  People outside my school often asked me if I’d ever consider changing schools to be able to work with younger kids again.  Nope.  It was never a second thought.  The school where I teach is the best, from the administration to the coaches to the staff to the parents to the students and to the community.  Many of my coworkers have become some of my best friends.  Alright, so what in the world prompted this?

first day of school in 2013

Last Friday I was called into the principal’s office.  As I’m sure it is with anyone walking into their boss’s office, I was nervous as I did not know what to expect.  “I have to move you to first grade next year,” she said.  Instantly, my eyes welled up with tears.  My mind began racing with the first thoughts coming to mind were that I was being separated from my team.  The last several years my team was the best.  Literally.  We worked seamlessly with each other and tirelessly for the growth of our students.  We shared the responsibility, trusted each other, and loved each student as our own, no matter whose class they were in.  We celebrated together and problem solved together.  We were a team through and through.  We knew it wouldn’t last forever, but I was so shocked that this was happening without any warning and that I was going to be the one leaving.

After I left the office, it was time for me to pick up my students from music.  We went back to my room, I shut the door, and I got my students started on some work.  Then, I checked my email.  Official staffing was released which meant everyone knew I was moving to first grade (along with several other changes in the building).  Two of my wonderful teammates came to my room, gave me hugs, asked if I was mad and sad, and what I was feeling.  Each time, the tears flowed and I became upset all over again. My mind was racing as I was trying to process everything.  Over the next 24 hours, I received emails, texts, and calls “checking on me,” asking if I was ok, or how I was doing.

At some point in time, I really started reflecting on what was happening.  For the past eight years, whenever I filled out my grade request change sheet, I always put my current grade as first choice, and then first grade as my second choice.  I LOVED teaching first grade my first year of teaching, so why was I so upset?  As I tried to find the root cause, I became more confused.  I loved teaching the little ones.  I was excited about this opportunity.  But because everyone assumed I would be upset, distraught, and unhappy, those types of feelings that were lingering inside me were automatically propelled because everyone expected me to feel that way.

That’s not to say I wasn’t feeling any of those things initially.  There were many factors contributing including the process, changing friendships, and the worry of learning entirely new curriculum.  But those concerns should have been secondary to my excitement.  Then, I became angry.  Why were people assuming such negative things with my grade level change?  Yes, leaving my team is and will be the hardest part, and I’m definitely not happy about that.  I know there will be other challenging times throughout the rest of the year knowing I will be leaving the team.  But really, there are many positives to the situation.  My post is not really about the change in grade levels.  Change is always hard.  My post is about the lesson in the power of framing words.  I began to wonder if instead of people asking how upset I was, if they framed their words differently, in a more positive manner, would that affect how I felt about the situation?  I fully realize that I should be in control of my own thoughts and feelings without letting others affect me so.  I’m also not saying I felt that way solely because of people’s initial reaction.  Some of those feelings were inside, but joy should have been the primary emotion.

I called my aunt who is a retired teacher and spent a great majority of her time in first grade specifically.  Without providing any context to what had happened, I merely told her I would be moving to first grade next year.  “Congratulations!” was her immediate response.  Wow, what a difference that made!  When I told a few other non-school people, they all had similar reactions as they’ve known about my desire and passion to teach younger kids.  Receiving the happy and excited responses helped confirm within myself that I, too, really was excited about this opportunity.  The more positive people were with their reactions, the more positive I felt about the change.

So here’s the lesson: we need to be careful with our assumptions and how we frame our words.  Even though our words can have the most empathetic intentions, how we frame them can really trigger how a person feels.  I know they did for me.  Again, I know the words my dear friends asked me came from a place of compassion, care, and concern.  I was surprised with how much they affected me when, really, I just need some time to process and reflect on an individual basis first.

I don’t think there is / was one right way for how to handle the situation all around.  I think we’re all doing our best, and like everything else in life, it can be looked at as a learning experience.  I don’t want to dwell on the negative pieces.  Frankly, I don’t want to talk about anything negative today.  I want to be excited about this change and look forward to the cuties I’ll have in my classroom next year.  And I will definitely try be more thoughtful and positive with how I phrase questions, words of encouragement, or pieces of advice in the future, especially with sensitive topics.

Were you ever surprised with the way someone else’s words affected you?

being alone by choice

I’m not talking about relationships today, friends.  Sorry if that’s what you thought, but just no.  That’s one part (probably the only part) that gets left off the blog for a multitude of reasons.  For now anyway.  Maybe not forever.  Hopefully not forever.

ANYWAY… Being a single mom is hard.  I’ve said it time and time again and it still stands true.  I’m not looking for nor do I need any head pats.  Today I’m talking about the difference between being alone by choice compared to not.  You see, as a single mom, I spend close to all my time with my little William whom I love dearly with my whole heart.  With the exception of school (work), William is with me most of the time.  And when he’s not… well, that can be hard.  Let me try to explain.

this little one is my world

Don’t get me wrong; I like having “me” time.  There are times when I need to be alone in order to be able to recharge my batteries.  When I became a mom, that all changed.  I give everything to William and put him first.  That’s what moms do.  That’s not to say I don’t take care of myself; I do, as that’s incredibly important as a mother.

When the divorce was finalized and a visitation schedule was set, I knew I would have time without William.  While many say to me, “Well, you can use that time to get things done,” because any momma knows how challenging that can be with a toddler (or infant or child).  But it feels different when it’s not by choice, and, frankly, it’s hard and can be a little heart wrenching.  Yes, I can use that time to run errands, go grocery shopping, do the laundry, etc.  Most of the time, that is what I use that time for.  But sometimes, when all those little things are already completed, or maybe when I just don’t feel like doing those tasks, that alone time is hard because it’s not my choice.  So what do I do about it?

Almost always, I workout.  Finding time to workout with William around is not easy.  He’s two and likes to be engaged all the time.  Not to mention working out always gives me a boost, both mentally and physically.  Lately, my go to has been power yoga in a heated room which I am absolutely loving.  But that only takes an hour.  So what else?  Many times I try to schedule a get together with a friend.  Whether it’s coffee, lunch, or a walk in the park, not being alone during a time that is hard is a good thing; I just have to make the effort to solidify plans.

I do have the very best friends and family.

Other times, if I’m unable to make plans or choose not to for whatever reason, I do try to stay busy.  This means catching up with friends on the phone, running errands (sometimes unnecessarily shopping), cooking, or blogging.  I do have a very hard time relaxing.  Very rarely will I lay on the couch and watch tv during these times.  I feel like I need to be doing something.  The distraction is helpful when I stay busy, not to mention the productivity of it all.

It’s a funny thing, being alone by choice compared to not having that choice.  While I used to crave that time, it certainly has changed these days.  Now it makes me feel lonely.  Maybe it’s the dreary winter days that’s keeping me inside more than I’d prefer or maybe it’s the nerves of William being away from me.  If I don’t have something planned, that time is hard.  The mature part of me does recognize that it is a positive thing for William to have a father in his life, but it’s still hard because there’s a lot I disagree with on that end.  It is different from our nice routine that we have going on when it’s just me and William, or when William is at school, or when he’s with my parents or my sister.  There is a notable difference when I get William back.  Change is difficult, for everyone, at any age.

Another thing that makes it challenging when I am alone not by choice is that it’s a reminder of the family I don’t have right now.  Anyone who knows me, knows how much I’ve always wanted my own family, to be a mom, to create what I had growing up of unconditional love and support.  While I still can and do give that to William, it’s in a different way than I imagined.  My immediate and extended family are more than always there for me and William, and they are my family, really and truly.

my sister who I text and call 50,000 times a day – I know she wouldn’t want it any other way (despite her frequent #needy hashtags)

William and I are doing well.  This really isn’t meant to be a woe is me post, just some thoughts that have been on my mind the last few times I haven’t had William.  As much as I’d like life to always be rainbows and sunshine, it’s not always.  I do try to make the most of it, and while these feelings are uncomfortable, they do serve as good reminders to cherish the times I do have with William, even those challenging toddler times.  I wouldn’t have it any other way!

just you and me, baby!

I’m very grateful for my life, my William, my friends, my family, my health, and my happiness.  Like I’ve always said, everything happens for a reason, even though we may not know or understand the reason at the time.  It all works out; it always does.  I keep on believing that as it’s held true thus far in my life.  Good things happen to good people, so I’m going to keep on being the best person I can be.

What are your thoughts on alone time?

what to get someone who has everything

At some point during the holiday season, or perhaps a different joyous occasion throughout the year, I’m sure you have thought, “What to get someone who has everything?”  While this post won’t help with the holidays that just happened (unless you’re a really delayed gift giver, which if that’s the case, I’ve got you!), I’m sharing this post so you’re able to tuck this little secret into your back pocket for the next time you need to purchase a gift for someone who has everything.  Or for someone who may not have everything, but you’re totally lost in what in the world to get them.

Ladies and gentlemen, let me introduce you to UncommonGoods.com.  I’m telling you, they’ve got the most unique gifts that you won’t find elsewhere and that are sure to please any recipient.  Furthermore, they’ve got a great mission.

At UncommonGoods, we’re working to change the way business is done by making sustainability a part of every decision we make. We’re steadily working to make UncommonGoods more environmentally friendly, socially responsible and an ever-more rewarding place to work.

Not only can you find an awesome gift, but you can feel good about it, too!  Their website is so easy to navigate.  It’s organized into 11 categories: gifts, fun, home, kitchen & bar, art, jewelry, women, men, kids, sale, and this just in.  Each of those categories then has tons of subcategories.  For example, if you click on women, there is an accessories subcategory with nine different options, there is a “by interest” subcategory with things like geek, cooking, business, and more, and then there is a “who are you shopping for” subcategory so you can really narrow down your search.  You could literally spend hours on the site just browsing!

Let’s take birthdays, for example.  Everyone has them, and most likely you celebrate with gifts.  There are 259 items in the birthday gifts category.  Here are a few that are my favorites:

  • Birthstone Wishing Balls: Not only are these gorgeous, but they come with 52 slips of paper for you to pause once a week throughout the year and record a message of hope or gratitude for you to insert in the ball.
  • New York Times Custom Birthday Book: This is a collection of the New York Times front pages from each year since your birth, personalized with your name and birth date, and preserved in a handsome library binding.
  • Construction Plate & Utensils: I know a certain little boy who would LOVE this!  This makes eating fun for little ones.
  • Mason Jar Indoor Flower Garden: Keep your garden indoors and enjoy the beauty of flowers all year round with this easy to maintain kit!  Comes with certified non-GMO seeds in assorted colors.
  • My Cinema Lightbox: I actually received this as a Chanukah gift this year, and it’s SO much fun to create new messages!  (Check out my Instagram for some examples!)  It includes a total of 100 letters, numbers, and characters.
  • Birth Month Mini Dish: These gorgeous, stained glass bowls are handmade to represent each of the 12 traditional birthstone gems.

Another way to browse through the Uncommon Goods website is through the category of Anniversary Gifts.  HERE are my favorites:

  • Intersection of Love – Photo Print: Obviously I love this because it uses “Williams” as an example, but you could really get creative here and commemorate the moment paths first crossed with this intriguing, personalized art.
  • Reclaimed Wood Cookbook Stand: I think anything made from wood is nice, and this particular piece would give anyone’s kitchen a dash of rusticity.
  • Cheese & Crackers Serving Board: The “&” symbol makes this a perfect anniversary, wedding, shower, or engagement gift!
  • Succulent Living Wall Planter Kit: My siblings and I bought this for my parents a couple of years ago.  Succulents are low maintenance and the wood-framed garden is a work of living art.
  • Homemade Gin Kit: How fun to make your own alcohol!  They also have a homemade beer kit!  Definitely a fun do-it-yourself project for couples.
  • Lumen Oil Candle Shadow Projectors: This modern oil candle illuminates a tiny stainless steel tree, casting enchanting shadows on your wall.

My other favorite category to look through is home decor.  My picks:

  • 60 Hour Candle: Made from coiled beeswax, this candle is designed to burn longer than traditional shapes.
  • Deep Sea Sand Art: Bring a calming presence to your office with this desk sculpture that forms natural landscapes with sand. Simply rotate the glass ring and watch as delicate drifts of light and dark sand shift into deserts, mountains, clouds, rain, oceans and smoke, all ebbing and flowing into one another.
  • Personalized Mixtape Doormat: Relive the nostalgia of making a mixtape!  They have other personalized doormats, as well.
  • Blowing Leaves Copper Mobile: Mobiles aren’t just for kids anymore! This adds a nice touch to any home.  There’s also a beautiful butterfly mobile.
  • Recycled Glass Elephant Nightlight: The soft glow of this painterly nightlight illuminates a sweet scene of a baby elephant tagging along with its parent for protection against the backdrop of night. They also have flowers, owls, and sheep.
  • Cloudy Day Toilet Paper Storage: Everyone needs a fun way to store TP!

Aren’t these gifts so much fun?  They’re eclectic and can be found for any occasion.  I guarantee you can find something for your special someone that they don’t already have.  There’s also a wide array of price ranges to fit your budget.  Uncommon Goods is definitely my go-to for unique gifts!

What’s the most unique gift you’ve ever given or received?

~Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post on behalf of Uncommon Goods.  All thoughts and opinions are my own.

What Should You Be

I feel like I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention the election or what’s going on in the United States right now, but to be honest, I don’t know what to say.  There’s a lot that’s already been said (way too much on social media, in my opinion) and there’s a lot that’s already been done, negative and positive on both accounts.  So instead of writing about my views about our country’s situation, I’ve been thinking about what can we learn from this?  In a very general sense, how can what’s going on help to make me a better person, a better mother, a better friend, and a better teacher?

What Should You Be

Loving.  Kind.  Compassionate.  Caring.  Positive.

Yes, these are big words, but they have grand meaning behind them that could have major impact on your own self and those around you.

If you could love a little more, then maybe all the hate that is happening would decrease.

If you could be a kind person, then others could learn from your example.

If you could be compassionate, you would realize maybe someone else isn’t having the best day for whoever knows what the reason could be.

If you could be caring, others would know they are important.

If you could be positive, even when life presents challenges, you will hold on to the hope that is still there.

live life love itzlinz

After all, we’re all in this thing called life together.  Why not try to be the best version of our self for ourselves and for others?  Wouldn’t the world be so much more peaceful if we could all exemplify the aforementioned words?

There was a quote hanging in the teacher’s lounge yesterday morning.  You can still love people even if they don’t believe the same things you believe or act the way you act.  How powerful and true is that?  Love, my friends, LOVE.

Maybe this post is way too general for the heavy issues that are weighing on people’s minds right now.  I do think it’s important to stand up for what you believe in; that’s how change gets made.  But I think there are ways to do it where you don’t have to tear people down, where you can still be a good human.  I guess that’s what it comes down to.  If you want change, be the change, but in a way that you’d be proud to have people follow your lead.

I often think about how my actions affect William.  He is always watching and listening, literally always.  I want to show him love, kindness, compassion, give him all the care he deserves, and be as positive as possible.  I want him to be that kind of person, so I must, too.

What words would you add?

friends are important

Friends are important. All the time, no matter who you are, how old you are, what stage of life you’re in, how long you’ve been friends, or how the friendship developed; the bottom line is: friends are important.  Friendships develop very early on, but just because you grow older, they don’t stop.  Friends change, just as people do, but true friendships last no matter the time that goes in between seeing or talking or the distance that may keep you apart.  I have friends that I’ve known my entire life and also friends that I’ve made in the last year.  I have friends from my childhood, high school, college, previous jobs, current coworkers, playgroup, etc.

As I was scrolling through the photos in my phone, I was smiling remembering the time spent with my friends throughout these past couple of months when I wasn’t blogging and thought today was a good day to share some of these snapshots.

steph sara julie

On Saturday night, a few of us had an impromptu girls night out.  I picked up my sister Stephanie on the way out, and as she entered my car, she said noticed, “Do we have the exact same outfit on?!”  Not planned!  Then, when we met Sara and Julie out, we saw their outfits were almost identical, as well.  Not planned either.  Friends who stick together dress the same?  Or something like that.  We had a wonderful evening, talking, and laughing until there were tears in our eyes.

mck-gno

I’m lucky in that I get to teach with ladies who have become some of my closest friends.  It’s funny to spend over 40 hours a week with each other during the school year, and then not see them very often over the summer.  We planned a couple girls night outs, so we didn’t go the entire two months without!

caitlin july16

Caitlin and I met when we were 15 hostessing at First Watch.  Despite going to different high schools, colleges, and living in different states the last ten years, we’ve remained close as ever.  Now that Caitlin is back in St. Louis, it’s like we were never apart, and we get to have as much fun now (or more?) than we did when we were 15!

linking up with katie and erin 

mara rachel julie steph jen

When I became a mom, I knew I wanted to join a playgroup to be able to connect with other women going through the same thing I was.  Little did I know, these girls would become some of my closest friends.  Two and a half years later, we continue to plan play dates, celebrate special occasions, share / question / discuss the ins and outs of being mommas to our littles.

caitlin heather angel

Another amazing thing about friends is when friends from different areas of your life get together.  These were some girls during my birthday celebration and they only know each other through me.  We had such a fun night and everyone got along great.

julie mara sara jen

Maintaining and making time for friends can be challenging.  Everyone is busy, so putting in time and effort is required.  It’s not to say that you’re not friends with those who you may not speak with on a regular basis.  I have many friends who we have phone dates every so often or we see each other maybe just once a year due to location, but it’s always as though no time has passed.  Friendships are strong and I’m grateful to have so many important friendships in my life.  Obviously, many of my friends are not pictured in this post, but looking through past pictures was a nice reminder of how I’m surrounded by loving, smart, caring, and inspiring ladies.

In a time where the world can be a scary place, friends (and family) are more important than ever.  Reach out to those you love and keep in touch! 🙂

Macy’s Back To School Shopping Party

How is school starting already?!  I know, I know, I can’t complain too much since I, as a teacher, actually get summers off to enjoy,  but still!  I know my other teacher friends and mommas sending kiddos back to school feel my pain here!  I’m back in my classroom today unloading boxes, putting up bulletin boards, writing on name tags, and getting everything organized for the upcoming year.  While I have been cherishing every moment of summer, the new school year does bring lots of excitement, as well.  I’m not ready to leave my William to go to work again, but seeing the faces of my new students eager to learn does make me feel good.

Luckily, this awesome Macy’s Back To School Shopping Party is here to make the end of summer a little more fun.   William and I will be attending the St. Louis event since our clothes during the summer are a bit more casual than school. 😉

running july16

William will need something a little more substantial to wear to school, even though his ‘smile’ onesie is too cute.  And even more so with his curls flying while he runs full force through the neighborhood at 7:00 am!

So what exactly does the Macy’s Back To School Shopping Party consist of?  Well, clearly Macy’s wants you to do your back to school shopping at their store, but they’re going to make it way more fun than usual.  It’s 90’s themed (OH YES!) and they’ll have beauty makeovers, they’ll give styling tips, and they’ll show you all the new fashion must haves!  There will also be some sweet treats and a photobooth, which you know William and I will be all over! And… it’s a FREE event!

The St. Louis Macy’s Back To School Shopping Party will be held on Saturday, August 6, 2016 at 2:00 pm at the West County Mall.  But, there will be these events nationwide, so be sure to find out when it’s coming near you!  (See a full list HERE.)

I’ll be bringing along my own personal fashionista.

steph july16

My sister Stephanie.  I’ve been stealing borrowing her clothes since they 90’s, so it only makes sense I bring her to this event.  I’m sure she’ll pick up a few back to school outfits for Jacob and Audrey, too.  (Though the real reason I’m bringing her is so she can tell me what to buy.  Obviously.)

Here’s the official photo for the event:

macysbts

So I guess overalls are back in?  See?  I know nothing about fashion or “what’s in.”  I’m always late to the game in that department and sometimes never hop on the latest trends.  Hopefully Stephanie and the style experts at Macy’s can help guide me in the right direction.  For now, I’ll leave William to be the one sporting overalls until I can get some more clarification.

william 2 years old

St. Louis friends, I hope to see you there!  (HERE is all the information & details!)

Is school starting soon for you or your kids?  Are you ready?!

This post is sponsored by Everywhere Agency on behalf of Macy’s; however, all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.

Why I’m Struggling To Blog

The frequency of my blogging has decreased.  That’s no secret.  I used to be a religious Monday through Friday blogger, and for the past couple of months, it’s been a post or two a week.  It’s not that I don’t want to blog; I DO.  I really do.  I miss blogging, I miss writing, I miss having a routine, I miss the community.

It’s time.  That thing that always passes too quickly and we never have enough.

I’m pretty sure everyone can relate to feeling like there’s not enough time in the day.  It doesn’t matter what life stage you’re in or who you are, I bet you wish there was more time.  I know I do!  I used to blog every evening.  That was my routine; that’s what I did.  Well now, I just started sleep training (again) my little darling.  His bedtime is 8:00 pm, but it’s been taking him a looong time to fall asleep.

sleep june16

But when he does, isn’t he precious?

That means it’s close to nine o’clock before I can blog.  But let’s not forget that most days, when William sleeps this is my only chance to get other things done.  Important things, like showering.  Not to mention picking up the house, cleaning, laundry, eating, you name it.  So lately other things have been taking priority over blogging.  I really miss it though.  I have content I want to share.  I have recipes, workouts, reviews, daily life happenings, etc.

We’ve been visiting splash pads and pools more now that the weather is HOT in St. Louis.  William and I both love being outside, and I love it even more because it really wears William out and causes him to take nice, long naps!

carly june16

This is William and his girlfriend, Carly.  They were being so cute holding hands the other day during our play date!

linking up with katie and erin 

And sometimes life just gets in the way.  I love blogging, but sometimes (many times) life is more important.  I thought I’d have all this extra time now that summer is here, but really I’m just enjoying that time.  Take mornings, for instance.  I wouldn’t call them lazy because William would never let me be lazy, but they’re much more leisurely.  Instead of rushing around trying to get us both ready, we’ve been spending more time outdoors first thing in the morning when we let Zoey out.  William rearranges all the flower pots, uses sticks to go “fishing,” and listens to the birds sing.

smile chair june16

“No shoes on,”  William says as we open the door to let Zoey out.  Then he runs to the kitchen to get his Crocs which are his only shoes to fit over his pajamas.

Last night we picked up my parents from the airport and spent some time at their house.  William helped Pops workout by adding some extra weight to his plank!

pops plank june16

I’m not sure who thought it was funnier!

Yaya has always taught William a million new things each time she spends time with him.  Last night it was the game Hi Ho Cherry-O which she still has saved from when we were kids.  She was explaining to William how you put the cherries on the tree from the basket.  William put one on and shouted, “Did it!”  We laughed as he still had nine others to do.

yaya game june16

So even though I’m not blogging as consistently as I’d like, I’m here.  I do Instagram most days, so definitely follow me there at @itzlinz.  In the meantime, I’ll keep on working on this schedule thing.  And just enjoying life.  You should, too.

What’s been going on with you? Do you feel like you’re short on time?

believe in yourself

Today’s post is just a quick reminder to believe in yourself.  It’s amazing how far you can come when you stick with something and believe in yourself.  I started blogging over four years ago.  I never imagined blogging would take me where it has today.  Today I embark on a new journey.

Follow my adventure on Instagram (@itzlinz).

My very first blog header was a compilation of three photos – one being me doing a split jump at the top of the hill.  And while we didn’t recreate it perfectly during our last family Sunday dinner, it was impromptu and it was perfect just how it was.

split jump jacob

Check out the height my little nephew Jacob got!  His form is not too shabby either.  He’s always been willing to do what I’m doing – split jumps, yoga, handstands, you name it.  I love how eager he is to try something new.  To believe in himself.

handstand jacob

So today that’s what I’m doing.  I’m believing in myself.  And you should, too.

Do you see my little William running up the hill as fast as he can to get in on the action?? That’s my boy!!  He’ll be going upside down with me in no time!!

You know you’re a mom when…

Hooray!  It’s Friday!  Why do four day weeks feel just as long (maybe longer?) as five day weeks?  I thought today would be a great day to give you a laugh and keep things lighthearted by sharing “You know you’re a mom when…”  No matter if you have kids, if you don’t have kids, if you want kids, if you don’t want kids, or if you are a kid yourself, you’ll find this funny.  I reached out to my favorite Facebook group and asked them to fill in the blank.  With over 50 responses, I couldn’t keep up adding them to this post in between my fits of laughter.  I’m sure you mommas can relate, as I found myself nodding my head to a great majority of these… Enjoy!

you know you're a mom when...

You know you’re a mom when…

  • You’ve eaten dinner with a toddler fork watching Paw Patrol… by yourself.
  • Locking the door to the bathroom is your only getaway…until little fingers slide under it.
  • Your child wants a piece of gum and you just starting chewing your last piece so you grab a little from Your mouth and give it to them.
  • Consider using your breast milk when you’re out of coffee.
  • One of your main concerns in life is about someone else’s bowel movements.
  • You’ve been wearing the same outfit for days and haven’t showered, but man, your kids are lookin’ cute.
  • You realize hours later you have poop under your finger nails. Yuck!!!!
  • When you leave for work after getting the kids ready for school with your robe still on!
  • You find yourself hiding in the pantry closet eating a candy bar in hopes you won’t get caught or have to share with your child!
  • Your baby pees a little on the couch, so you flip over the cushion.
  • You look forward to someone burping in your face.
  • Seeing poop makes you happy. Really happy.
  • Having puke pee and poop on your shirt doesn’t bother you as much as it should.
  • You finally get some alone time, and all you do is think about/talk about/miss your child and can’t wait to get back to them.
  • You have to go out of town for two days and thing you are looking forward to is a bathroom uninterrupted.
  • You can’t remember the last time you washed your own hair.
  • You wipe slobber, boogers, and snot off of someone else’s face with your fingers because you forgot tissues/wipes!

horizon macncheese

Your kids are eating dinner with a wooden spoon and a spatula and you let them because… hey, at least they’re eating!

  • Lick food off your kid because you have no napkins.
  • You declare victory on picking a booger out of a nose.
  • When you realize you’ve watched cartoons for 25 minutes and your child is asleep.
  • Your favorite movie is hotel Transylvania 1 and 2 and you like it way more than your kids.
  • When you pick ear wax out of your toddlers ear without even hesitating… And then wipe it on your jeans.
  • You think of selling the kids to the circus because the six year old and the ten year old won’t stop arguing.
  • The two and three year olds are fighting, yes – tears are evolved, but you are still hiding in your room to finish your Snickers before becoming a referee.
  • You aren’t sure if it’s chocolate or poop under your nails, so you give it the sniff test.
  • You’ve become similar to a dog, sniffing bottoms to make sure baby is clean!
  • You let your child stick their toothbrush in your mouth to brush your teeth, so you can brush theirs!
  • When you find your self rocking back and forth and your baby isn’t even in your arms.
  • You do a quick scrub to get the baby spit up off of your last “clean” pair of pants on your way out the door to work. I literally did this today…
  • You wipe your kid’s nose with your shirt and don’t give it a second thought.
  • You can shower with the door and the curtain open with random toys tossed in throughout.
  • A donut is an acceptable before bed snack because everyone’s sick and nothing else sounds good!
  • Your purse has five unmatched socks, four Legos, a teething ring, two diapers and a pack of wipes… And you’re heading to work.
  • You eat off your kid’s face because it’s easier than getting a napkin or getting those crumbs into your kid’s mouth!
  • Open the door for the UPS guy with one boob out because you are breastfeeding and forgot to put it away before getting the door.
  • Clean your whole house/car/self with baby wipes.
  • You walk out of the house with bandaids all over your arms and legs without being hurt because your toddler is obsessed with them.
  • You can tell what kind of poop it is by the smell.
  • You’ve had to say, don’t pick your brother’s nose…more than once!
  • Your first reaction to a fart is laughing.
  • You stay up two hours after everyone else in the house goes to bed just to have some quiet time to yourself!
  • You can’t remember the last time you showered, but remember to make sure everyone else has bathed and or washed up.
  • Pooping with the door open becomes the norm.
  • There are toys in every room of the house, including bathrooms.

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You let them take extra long baths because it takes little to no effort on your part (after the initial wash) on days you’re extra exhausted and want free / safe / worthwhile entertainment for your little one.

  • When you have your kids favorite songs in your head and you start singing with them not around!
  • You become very worried when the house becomes too quiet because you known your munchkins are up to no good and you are afraid of what you will find.
  • When you get to work, realize your daughter has some how managed to get stains on your scrubs and you choose to ‘rock it’ instead of leave to go home and change.
  • Or when you get to work or go on a date with the hubby and realize that you are still listening to the Elmo CD your daughter has in the car, long after you’ve dropped her off.
  • Getting up at 6 am feels like you got to sleep in. YES!!!
  • You catch vomit in your hands because it’s all you have.
  • You’re so tired you put a ziplock Baggie of cheese in the drawer with the baggies and not the fridge..and find it who knows how long later.
  • When you join Disney movie club “for the kids,” but you would rather watch them without them.
  • When you’re so tired you don’t realize that your child has on 3T pants when he’s 18 months old(older brothers pants).
  • When your phone alerts you to feed your child’s dragon in Dragon Mania. And then you actually play the game because your kid is in school and you don’t want the poor dragon to starve…
  • You smell like old milk and cheerios, you wipe drool with your hand without a thought (including on children that aren’t your own!), a grocery trip without children counts as a night out.
  • When you have to tell another human being on multiple occasions to please not lick your eyebrow.
  • When putting on a real bra on a date with dada (Valentine’s Day) & you realize you cut up an entire 8oz filet in miniature non-choke-able pieces……
  • You go to the gym and instead of working out take a 30 minute hot shower.
  • When dinner, penis, and homework are all said within a short conversation with your three boys.
  • You pull a pacifier out of your cleavage, at a church, moments before a wedding begins.
  • When you’re so tired you accidentally scoop formula into your coffee filter.

william newborn

photo by stephanie cotta photography

No matter how crazy or ridiculous the stories are, there’s one thing we can all agree on: We love these tiny humans with our whole heart forever and always no matter what and they grow up WAY.TOO.FAST!

YOUR TURN! Finish the sentence: You know you’re a mom when…

hot coffee + cold snow

Hot coffee + cold snow pretty much sums up my day yesterday!  On Tuesday afternoon, St. Louis began having some snow flurries.  (Oh look, here I am, talking about the weather again.)  By evening time, roads weren’t great, but I wasn’t anticipating a snow day as trucks would have all night to clear the streets.  Well, much to my surprise, I received a phone call at five o’clock Wednesday morning, and sure enough, SNOW DAY!

If you think kids are the only ones who get excited about snow days, you are so mistaken.  Teachers get very happy, if not more so than the children, about snow days.  Pretty much all schools in the St. Louis area were closed yesterday.  I actually don’t know any that were in session.

I knew I would have a leisurely day, so I brewed a cup of coffee and opened the door to see what all the fuss was about the weather.

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Yup, it had snowed a few good inches!  I heard the roads weren’t too terrible in the morning, but it was still very cold. Plus, school districts always worry about buses getting through neighborhoods safely, so better to err on the side of caution. The district where I teach rarely gets called, so it was a real treat to have a day off yesterday!  It made an already short week even shorter!

The day flew by and it was as productive as I’d hoped.  One of my priorities: get to the gym and sweat!

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I knocked out a 30 minute cardio session followed by a quick total body weight routine.  Man oh man I miss going to the gym on a regular basis!

thinking out loud with amanda today!

William got to hang out with his cousins Jacob and Audrey yesterday.  I didn’t get any photos of them, but I do have one ridiculously sweet picture of Jacob and William from last weekend:

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William wanted to lay with Jacob on the couch before his nap, and you see how that turned out. 🙂 Jacob is so sweet with him; it’s unbelievable! Audrey was out of town with her momma, but when she found out that Jacob spent time with William all alone without her she threw a big fit!  I had to Facetime her and promise a date with just her and William, not Jacob! (Her words, not mine.)

And to top it all off, check out these beauties I received:

flowers

Yes, life is good right now! 🙂

How’s the weather where you live? Is it summer yet?!